Tie a Knot

This morning I had a little chit-chat with my friends. We are girls, we like to talk about love. The topic appeared when I randomly asked them, "If God has to be the first of all, then why we should marry someone? I think when we are married, the first time we open our eyes we will think about him and our kids." One of the girls said that her older friends who are already married told her that when you marry someone, you will still feel empty, there will be miscommunications between two of you, and sometimes you feel like nobody understands you. So, my brain started to proceed so many questions.

The first question is, then why we, most of human race, chose to marry someone? We were born in a family, if it is comfortable enough, why should we leave? I think its human race's nature to love, we have to love and we need to love, a different kind of love that you give to your mom, dad, sisters, brothers and friends. So... that's not totally wrong to said that love is a part of tools for human race's continuity, love makes people making love instead of having sex.
I just realized that we don't need someone who can be a full-time lover, we need someone who can be a full-time best friend and flexible part-time lover. Being lovers all the time is tiring, we are trying to meet the expectations of our partner, maybe at that time we cant be the real us. We are human, we cant stop making mistakes, and we just cant be perfect, and so does our partner. That's why we need someone who can accept our flaws, and we need someone whom we can accept his/her flaws. Being best friend is about tolerating, forgiving, correcting each other, trusting, understanding, listening, and sharing moments, those are things we need in marriage. One of my friend told me, when you had spent so many years and moments with your hubby/wife, you will love him/her more as a sibling and best friend. Marriage is not always about romance, it is more about living your life with a former stranger that can take position as your parents, siblings and best friends at the same time. Yeah, romance gives sparkle to a relationship, but it is the desserts, not the main course.
So, should we marry our best friend? If only he/she can be your lover too. We need someone who can be friend, best friend, boy/girl-friend, 'partner in crime', professional partner, parents, siblings and hubby/wife at the same time. Its just 'The Magic of Life'.
Knowing the theories is much easier than practicing it. When we are falling in love, we tend to forget we cant be lovers all the time, being a sweet-caring-lover is a phase, but this too will pass. Once one of you back to normalcy, the other will begin to think his/her partner is changing now. No, they're just back to normalcy because being lovers all the time is tiring. If you can tolerate it, both of you can enter the the next step. If you're not strong enough to tolerate and conscious enough to realize, the fights and tears are coming in your way. But then you know, he/she is not the right one.
There are many couples out there feel sorry to marry their partner. Maybe when they are proposed, they were just flying too high in the air full of love and forget that they were just... too in love to see that far.

Please see it clearly. If you say that you really love him/her, can you accept his/her flaws? Can you imagine living a life with his/her bad side? Imagine about the worst cases, and think if you can live with that person. No one in this world want an unhappy marriage, so think further. True love loves with heart, mind, and logic thinking.

This all i can share. Sorry for my bad grammar and spelling, I'm trying my best.
Thanks for reading anyway :)